At 26, I have never had a boyfriend, only a series of non-serious relationships and casual arrangements. While this might sound like a cause for concern, I have come to see it as a blessing. The turning point came after a joyful evening with friends, when I realised I wouldn't trade my current life for any of the possible futures I once imagined with past partners.
Unrequited love has been a recurring theme in my life. At 21, I told a man I loved him, only to be rejected and dumped a few days later—on my birthday. At the time, it felt devastating, but now I see it as a gift. That rejection pushed me to pursue my calling as a journalist, rather than moving to the countryside with him.
Each experience of unreturned feelings has forced me to invest in myself. I have taken up pole dance and cookery classes, changed careers, practised yoga, explored my sexuality, and gone to therapy. All this energy, once given to inconsistent men, is now directed at building a better relationship with myself.
People often ask why I'm not in a relationship, which can be frustrating. But I have learned to spot red flags from a mile off, and I consider myself a 'dating veteran'. My single life feels valid, and I have never struggled with knowing myself—unlike friends who frequently fall in and out of love.
Unrequited love has made me emotionally stronger. I have been described as 'indomitable', and men I've dated have noted I am stronger than them. For that, I am grateful reciprocated love hasn't found me yet. It has pushed me into who I am, and I wouldn't have it any other way.
