Throuple Opens Up About Six-Year Journey Navigating Three-Person Relationship
What began as a personal revelation that could have ended a relationship instead transformed into a unique love story spanning six years. Alana, a 28-year-old from Colorado, had been dating her boyfriend Kevin, 35, for approximately three years when she confronted her attraction to women. While these feelings had always existed beneath the surface, they became undeniable during 2020.
Alana - who requested her last name be withheld for privacy - decided she needed to explore this aspect of her identity but was determined not to lose Kevin in the process. Her solution was unconventional yet heartfelt: she proposed they explore this journey together as a couple.
Entering a New Relationship Dynamic
This decision led them to Megan, 39, whom they connected with through a specialized dating application designed for couples seeking a third partner. The connection between all three individuals was immediate and powerful, forming what would become the foundation of their throuple.
"I had always found women attractive, but for a long time I wasn't sure if that was just admiration or something deeper," Alana explained. "Eventually, I opened up to Kevin about it and told him I wanted to explore that part of myself to understand whether it was more than just appreciation."
Kevin recalled feeling "grateful" that Alana trusted him enough to share her feelings so openly. "It was important to me to create a safe space where she felt comfortable talking openly and exploring that part of herself," he stated.
From Experiment to Committed Relationship
Initially, the couple viewed this exploration as potentially temporary - an experiment rather than a permanent lifestyle change. However, their connection with Megan proved transformative.
"After seeing each other multiple times over several months and talking almost every single day, we knew the feelings were very real and very strong," Alana revealed. "Around the six-month mark, it became clear that we wanted more than something casual. We wanted a real relationship together."
In January 2021, they officially became a throuple, though this transition presented immediate challenges with family acceptance.
Navigating Family Reactions and Internal Dynamics
"Kevin's mom struggled at first," Alana acknowledged. "It was a completely new concept for her, and we understood that. We gave her space and accepted that it might take time to understand."
For Megan, joining an established relationship presented its own difficulties. "There were definitely aspects that were difficult at first," she admitted. "I had never been in this type of relationship before, so everything felt new while Alana and Kevin already had history together."
She described moments of feeling excluded unintentionally due to the couple's shared history, inside jokes, and established routines. "I couldn't rush building that same history with them, and at times it felt like I was trying to catch up," Megan explained.
Living Arrangements and Jealousy Management
One year into their relationship, Megan moved into Alana and Kevin's 600-square-foot apartment with one bedroom and one bathroom. This close living arrangement introduced new challenges, particularly regarding jealousy.
"But we made it a priority to communicate immediately when those feelings came up," Alana emphasized. "Talking things through right away and making sure everyone feels seen and valued has been key."
Megan added her perspective: "Being able to openly acknowledge jealousy without blame and work through it together helped build trust and made those feelings feel manageable rather than overwhelming."
Establishing Relationship Structures
After six years together, the throuple has developed specific systems to maintain balance and harmony:
- They share a king-size bed and rotate sleeping positions nightly to ensure equal time together
- Regular scheduled "check-ins" provide dedicated time to discuss feelings and address issues promptly
- Open communication remains their foundational principle
"When you're learning a completely new relationship structure, it's essential to be extremely open about how you're feeling and to regularly check in with your partners," Megan advised. "You can't assume anything, you have to talk things through."
Public Scrutiny and Online Backlash
While their families have gradually become more accepting, the throuple faces significant judgment from strangers online. They document their relationship on Instagram and TikTok as Camp Throuple, accumulating hundreds of thousands of followers alongside considerable criticism.
"About 75 percent of the comments we get are hateful," Alana revealed. "People say everything from we are going to hell to this is not a real relationship or that one person must love someone more than the others."
Despite this negativity, they focus on positive feedback from followers who appreciate their openness. "We also receive countless messages from people telling us how much our openness has helped them," Alana noted. "Hearing that we have helped others communicate better or feel less alone makes it all worth it."
The Unexpected Daily Challenges
When asked about the most difficult aspect of their relationship today, Alana offered a surprisingly mundane answer. "Honestly," she said, "deciding what to eat or what to watch can be surprisingly difficult with three opinions involved."
Their journey demonstrates that while non-traditional relationships face unique obstacles, commitment, communication, and mutual respect can create lasting bonds regardless of relationship structure.
