Lorna Luxe Reveals the Secrets to Her 16-Year Marriage with Retired Banker Husband
Influencer Lorna Luxe, 43, has been married to her retired banker husband John Andrews, 64, for an impressive 16 years, navigating a notable 21-year age gap with grace and intention. The former air hostess, now a successful fashion entrepreneur, has opened up on social media about the non-negotiables that keep the spark alive in their long-term partnership.
Romantic Foundations: Gifts, Surprises, and Financial Support
Lorna recalls that when they first met, she was working as cabin crew and earning very little. John, she says, would spoil her by surprising her with gifts at the end of their dates. 'The first few months we got together and we went out, he would always give me a gift at the end of the date,' she shared. 'Usually make-up, sometimes skincare, I think he is the reason I started using ceramide. I would always look forward to them at the end of the night.'
Their early dating was facilitated by Lorna's airline perks, allowing John to accompany her on trips. The grand gestures continued when John surprised her by purchasing their first home. 'He was helping me flat hunt at the time and as soon as I turned up, I thought, I can't afford this - and then he gave me a little smile and said "I've bought this for us" and that's when I knew he was the one,' Lorna revealed.
Key Relationship Dynamics: Separate Spaces and Defined Roles
One of Lorna's more unconventional tips for marital longevity is having separate bathrooms in their iconic Ghost House in Warwickshire. 'I don't know if this is an "us" thing, but me and John don't share bathrooms,' she said. 'Maybe this is why we've lasted so long. He's not even allowed in my bathroom. Just kidding.'
She emphasises that John organises everything in their relationship, from trips to dinners, allowing her to simply 'turn up and ideally look cute.' 'He's been treating me like a princess since the day we met,' Lorna added. 'He will always find a way to surprise me, I could write a book on how John gets hotel upgrades.' Notably, John always pays the bill when they go out, a non-negotiable for Lorna, even though the money comes from a joint account. 'It comes out of the same bank account, but this way it feels like he is stepping up,' she explained.
Love Languages, Conflict Resolution, and Emotional Independence
The couple actively practices understanding each other's love languages, with John's being physical touch. Lorna makes a point to cuddle him every morning. Another rule is to never go to bed angry. 'It doesn't matter how frustrated we are with each other, we always make sure we make up before bed,' she stated.
Lorna advocates for a dynamic where the man does the worshipping. 'He is the one who has to worship me and not the other way around,' she said. 'What HE needs to feel is respected and supported and that dynamic really works for us.' She also stresses the importance of emotional independence over financial independence. 'You could have all the money in the world and be self sufficient but if you are relying on your man to be happy, you will always be miserable,' Lorna reflected. 'Because he knows I am OK without him, it does kind of make him obsessed with me and that's why he holds on so tight.'
Living Life to the Fullest Amidst Adversity
The couple's philosophy of indulgence has taken on profound meaning as John battles terminal cancer. They prioritise posh hotel stays and 'dirty weekends' in far-flung destinations, making the most of their time together. This poignant context underscores their commitment to living life to the fullest.
Their shared success is also a cornerstone. After famously running up £300k in debt to fund Lorna's early influencer career, they now co-own the thriving fashion business L.A.Space. This venture has funded their lifestyle for the last five years. They have no children by choice, dedicating all their disposable income to each other. 'We make a point to treat ourselves,' Lorna said. 'Whether that's a date night, or a gift or him ironing my clothes.'
Grand romantic gestures continue, with John upgrading Lorna's diamond engagement ring to a stunning 15-carat version to celebrate 15 years together. For Lorna, maintaining her appearance is also key. 'Always looks and feel your best. I always invest in looking good and taking care of myself,' she advised. 'You look good, you feel good - and when you feel good, you are just a better person. I always want to be a better person for John.'
Ultimately, Lorna attributes the longevity of their marriage to being equal partners. 'I think the reason why we've lasted so long together, is because we are equal partners in everything that we do,' she concluded, offering a glimpse into a relationship built on surprise, structure, and unwavering mutual support.
