As the new year begins, many across the UK are taking stock of their personal relationships, reflecting on who truly matters in their lives. The festive season often acts as a litmus test for friendships, highlighting who makes the effort to connect and who lets those bonds quietly fade.
The Expert Insight on Modern Friendship
Clinical Psychologist Dr. Christie Ferrari, who shares her expertise on relationships with over 541,000 followers on Instagram, has recently outlined the critical signs that someone may not be genuinely invested in a friendship. Her analysis, shared at the start of January 2026, cuts through the confusion of mixed signals and polite but empty interactions.
"Not everyone who’s polite wants to be your friend and that’s not mean," Dr. Ferrari explains. "The problem starts when politeness feels like potential… and you start over-investing."
Key Red Flags in a One-Sided Friendship
Dr. Ferrari identifies four primary behaviours that signal a lack of genuine friendship. The first is a superficial interest. The person may be perfectly friendly and well-mannered when you happen to meet, but they show no initiative to take the connection further. The interaction begins and ends with the chance encounter.
The second major warning sign is unanswered communication. If your texts or messages consistently go ignored over a period of time, it is a clear signal they are "not opting into the friendship." This passive avoidance speaks volumes about their level of commitment.
Thirdly, pay attention to who initiates plans. A person who never suggests meeting up or never texts you first is demonstrating a clear lack of investment. Dr. Ferrari contrasts this with the behaviour of a so-called 'mean girl,' who may initiate contact, but only selectively and when it serves a specific purpose for them, such as gaining information or access.
The final sign is a willingness to let distance grow. When life creates space between you, a true friend will make an effort to bridge the gap. Someone who is not interested will simply "let it stay," allowing the friendship to dissolve without a second thought.
Navigating Confusion and Inconsistency
Dr. Ferrari highlights that the most damaging dynamic is not simple disinterest, but confusion. Some individuals, particularly those exhibiting 'mean girl' tendencies, will periodically pull you back in with warmth, nostalgia, or compliments, only to become distant again. This cycle leaves you constantly unsure of your standing in the relationship.
"The red flag isn’t disinterest," she concludes. "It’s confusion, inconsistency, and subtle exclusion. If you’re constantly wondering where you stand, something is likely off."
For anyone entering 2026 evaluating their social circle, this expert advice serves as a crucial guide. Recognising these signs can help individuals direct their time and emotional energy towards relationships that are reciprocal and genuinely enriching, rather than those built on politeness and empty potential.
