After a sexually frustrating marriage ended in divorce, Leesa Morris found herself chasing increasingly extreme BDSM encounters. At 32, she met a man named Simon on a BDSM website and soon found herself handcuffed in his car, heading to a dungeon for a four-hour session. Despite achieving orgasms, she felt a creeping emptiness—the experience was entirely transactional.
Morris had long suppressed her kinky desires. At 17, her first boyfriend recoiled when she asked for a spanking. Later, she married a kind man but knew they were sexually incompatible. She stuffed her kink away, but it eventually demanded attention. Divorce followed, and she resolved never to deny herself again.
Yet the encounters left her unsatisfied. She realised she also needed warmth and connection. Her journey to overcome what she calls sex addiction involved recognising that she was seeking the wrong thing all along—not just physical release, but self-love and genuine intimacy.
Today, Morris speaks openly about her experiences, hoping to help others who struggle with similar compulsions. She emphasises that healing comes from understanding one's deeper needs and learning to love oneself.
