A man and his partner have ignited a fierce debate after asking guests to contribute food or money to their annual Christmas gathering, with some friends branding the request 'selfish'.
The Festive Gathering That Caused a Fuss
Every year, the couple hosts a holiday party at their home for a mix of 20-25 friends, family members, and co-workers. In previous years, they have footed the entire catering bill themselves, spending an estimated $500 (approximately £380) to provide a full spread for their guests.
However, facing rising costs, they decided to change the format for this year's event. On their mailed invitations, they introduced new stipulations for attendance. Guests were asked to bring a dish to share, with a list of suggested options provided, or alternatively, to pay $20 (£15) per person to help cover the food costs.
Backlash and Broken Traditions
The new terms did not sit well with everyone. Six potential attendees chose not to RSVP to the party. When the host followed up to ask why, the reluctant guests reportedly called the couple 'selfish' and 'not considerate' for expecting contributions.
The man explained the situation on Reddit, seeking opinions after receiving significant backlash. He noted that the party was a casual 'soiree-type gathering' and that the request was simply to offset the substantial annual expense they had previously borne alone.
A Nation Divided on Party Etiquette
The story has sparked a wider conversation about modern hosting etiquette, particularly during the expensive festive season. Many online commentators defended the couple, arguing that a potluck-style dinner is a fair and common way to share the labour and cost of a large gathering.
One supporter wrote: 'You were clear upfront with the requirements to attend. Provided you aren't upset when people choose not to attend... then you are not the a**hole.'
However, others felt the monetary option was a step too far. A critical view stated: 'I wouldn't have asked for the money. That turns a fun get-together into an event with an entrance fee. Just changing the name to 'Holiday Potluck'... would have been enough.'
The consensus from many was that while the hosts are entitled to set their terms, they must also accept that some people will decline the invitation as a direct result. The incident highlights the growing pressure of festive finances and the evolving unwritten rules of social hosting in the UK.
