In an exclusive revelation, a man set to marry next summer has confessed to cheating on his fiancée during a lads' holiday in Ibiza, prompting agony aunt Coleen Nolan to deliver a stark verdict.
The Confession: A Pre-Wedding Crisis in Ibiza
The reader, a 28-year-old man, wrote to Coleen Nolan's advice column detailing his turmoil. He and his 28-year-old fiancée have their wedding venue booked for July next year, but he is now consumed by doubt.
He expressed long-standing concerns about his partner's flirtatious behaviour, stating he finds it "humiliating" when she "works the room" for male attention on nights out. He believes she takes him for granted.
The crisis point came in October, during a trip to Ibiza for a friend's birthday. There, he reconnected with the sister of a friend who works on the island. "Inevitably, we slept together," he admitted. However, he stressed it was "more than just sex," leading him to realise he has strong feelings for this other woman and that he should not be getting married.
Coleen Nolan's Blunt Advice: Call It Off
Coleen Nolan's response was unequivocal. She advised him to cancel the wedding. She acknowledged that money would be lost and hearts broken, but insisted it is far better to act now than after the ceremony.
She urged him to have an honest conversation with his fiancée about his doubts. On the matter of the infidelity, Nolan suggested it "might be kinder to leave that bit out, at least for now." She proposed a potential cooling-off period for the couple to reassess their feelings without the pressure of a looming wedding date.
The Hard Truth to Avoid Greater Pain
Nolan empathised with how difficult it is to back out of a wedding but framed the alternative as worse. "If you were truly happy and sure about this marriage, you wouldn’t have slept with someone else," she stated bluntly.
Drawing on her perspective as a parent, she said she would give her own child the same advice. The columnist highlighted the profound pain of divorce, especially if children become involved, urging the reader to trust his gut and be strong now to avoid deeper unhappiness later.
The man now faces the daunting task of confronting his fiancée and halting the wedding plans, following the agony aunt's firm guidance.
