Isla and Benjamin, a married couple from Cambridgeshire with three young children, say their open marriage has deepened their sexual connection. Isla, who identifies as queer, raised the possibility of an open relationship on their second date 11 years ago. While they were theoretically open from the start, they only began dating others three years ago.
Isla explains that opening the marriage came from a place of strength, not difficulty. Both use the dating app Feeld to meet other people, ensuring transparency and consent from all parties. Isla says dating others has added excitement to her intimacy with Benjamin, especially after her desire waned following childbirth. She notes that being with someone who doesn't see her as a wife or mother has helped her reclaim her sexuality.
Benjamin admits he was initially taken aback by Isla's directness but was impressed. He says their sexual connection is stronger than ever after 11 years together, citing simultaneous orgasms and a deep emotional bond. He believes introducing other partners reminds him of the person he met before parenthood, which has been a catalyst for their intimacy.
The couple have sex about once a week, constrained by time but passionate. Isla says she always orgasms through penetration with Benjamin, and both agree the best sex happens at home while their children sleep. They prioritise each other above all, with Benjamin stating, 'Ultimately, Isla and I would never put other people before each other.'
