A Daily Star reader has turned to agony aunt Jane O'Gorman for advice after his brother labeled him an embarrassment for using blow-up dolls. The man, who had his heart broken years ago, now only engages in sexual activity with inflatable dolls, leading to family friction.
Heartbreak Leads to Unconventional Choices
The reader explained that his first love broke his heart by leaving him for his best friend. This caused him to go "a bit crazy" for several years, sleeping around and acting foolishly. Now, he has little interest in sex and uses blow-up dolls for quick gratification. He questions whether this is normal and notes that his brother calls him weird for not having a full-time partner.
His brother has stopped inviting him to parties and family events because he feels embarrassed. The reader seeks validation and guidance from O'Gorman.
Agony Aunt's Advice: No Justification Needed
Jane O'Gorman responded firmly: "You don't have to justify yourself to anyone. If you only feel like pleasuring yourself once in a while, then that's how it is." She emphasized that as long as no one is being abused or hurt, the reader should do as he pleases. However, she warned against letting a past bad experience ruin future relationships. "Open your heart and mind to the possibility of love," she advised, suggesting that someone else could provide comfort and companionship.
Second Dilemma: Friend's Dodgy Fiancé
In a separate query, a reader expressed concern about her best friend's new partner, whom her boyfriend remembers as a disruptive bully from school. The man allegedly stole lunch money and bullied teachers, and now claims to be involved in dodgy deals known to the police. The friend, however, sees him as a respectable businessman and finds his cockiness cute.
O'Gorman advised caution: "Stand back and keep an open mind. Be there with a shoulder to cry on should your friend need it, but don't stick your nose where it's not wanted." She noted that the reader has no proof of the man's misdeeds and that the friend hasn't asked for an opinion. "She's a big girl now and it's up to her whom she dates," O'Gorman concluded.
