The Prosecution: Annabel's Case
Annabel argues it's her duty as a partner to gently remind Teddy when he has food in his beard, whether at home or in public. She finds cakes, sandwich crumbs, grains of rice, and especially egg gross. She doesn't want to get his food on her face when kissing him, nor does she want him to look silly. Family and friends have also commented, but Teddy gets offended and dismisses them. Annabel says she tries to be subtle and supportive, but Teddy's reaction makes it difficult.
The Defence: Teddy's Perspective
Teddy feels that Annabel's prompts are shaming and belittling, especially in nice settings. He prefers a discreet nod or code word rather than public embarrassment. He notes that bearded people are more likely to retain food, and he feels defined by the food on his face rather than his whole self. Their children have also started pointing it out, adding to his shame. He wants more kindness and less harsh delivery.
The Jury of Guardian Readers Weighs In
Dexter, 61, says Teddy needs to grow up and stop being a crybaby. Jodie, 34, suggests shaving or trimming the beard to avoid the issue. Kennedy, 46, recalls the disgust of Mr. Twit from Roald Dahl and advises Teddy never to be compared to him. Wyn, 63, supports Teddy's request for a discreet nod. Daisy, 46, understands Annabel's focus and believes it's kinder to point out the food than leave him open to ridicule.
Verdict: You Decide
In an online poll, readers can vote on whether Annabel is right to tell Teddy about food in his beard. The poll closes on Wednesday 1 July at 9am BST. Last week, 81% of readers said Spencer was guilty for letting his kids climb over a neighbor's fence to retrieve a ball.
