A social media influencer who lived as a 'stay-at-home girlfriend' to a man featured on the Forbes 'Under 30' rich list has publicly declared the lifestyle is over, warning of its significant downsides.
Diana Sidva, a 23-year-old from Lisbon, Portugal, had documented a life of Pilates classes, fine dining, fast cars, and brand deals on Instagram, funded by a monthly allowance from her Italian partner. However, she has now stated she is "done" with the role, despite its apparent glamour.
The Glamour Fades: Questioning the 'Pilates and Matcha' Life
In a recent video to her 12,000 followers, Sidva openly questioned the value of her former existence. "The Pilates and matcha lifestyle is so overrated, don't you think?" she asked. She explicitly stated, "I don't want to be anymore a trophy wife, stay-at-home girlfriend... I'm done."
She explained that while the fun is appealing when young, she foresees a deeper issue. "Yes, I agree it is great fun when you are young, but when you come to your 30s or 40s with no achievements in life, I think it's kind of sad," Sidva elaborated.
The Real Problem: A Growing Personal Divide
Sidva pinpointed the core issue as a divergence in personal growth between partners. She argued that while the wealthy individual is constantly evolving by tackling daily business challenges, the partner reliant on them risks stagnation.
"Whereas he had 20 years of using his brain every day dealing with problems and challenges, what she did for the last 20 years was going to Pilates and choosing nail colours - imagine how different these two people will be," she said.
This dynamic, she warned, places the dependent partner permanently in "second place," as the provider's career will always be the priority for funding holidays and activities. Sidva used her own experience as an example, noting her social media income "couldn't compare" to her boyfriend's.
Reactions and the Search for Fulfilment
Sidva's confession sparked a significant reaction online. While some defended traditional roles, with one user stating, "Raising kids and being a wife also counts as an achievement," others echoed her concerns about dependency.
"When you depend on a man financially, you are trapped, you are not free even if you think you are," wrote a second commenter. A third shared a personal experience of boredom turning into depression when not working, calling the lifestyle "lonely" and only "glorified on Instagram and TikTok."
Another user agreed with the need for personal evolution, commenting, "I need to do new things... I need this to evolve and match his frequency."
Sidva concluded by advocating for mutual growth in a relationship. "I personally think it is a great idea when both of the partners are evolving with their own challenges, they listen to each other, and they try to help each other grow," she said, marking her departure from the 'stay-at-home girlfriend' identity she once promoted.
