A woman has shared her embarrassment after accidentally proposing to her boyfriend during a celebratory weekend away. The incident occurred at a hotel swimming pool, where she blurted out, “Will you marry me?” in a moment of spontaneity. Despite feeling it came from the heart, her boyfriend responded with, “Are you joking? Eh, maybe not yet,” leaving her hurt and confused.
What Happened During the Getaway
The couple was away at a hotel to celebrate his birthday and her job promotion. While mucking around in the pool, she got carried away and proposed. Although it was spontaneous, she meant it, especially since they had been discussing the future, including weddings and babies. She never expected him to turn her down.
Her Feelings of Embarrassment and Hurt
Since then, they haven’t spoken about the proposal, and she admits to sulking. She doesn’t doubt his love or their solid relationship, but she questions why he didn’t just say yes. Too embarrassed to tell friends, she is stewing alone and overthinking. “I’m too embarrassed to even tell my mates about it, so I’m now just stewing on it by myself and overthinking it all,” she wrote.
Coleen’s Advice: Address It Openly
Advice columnist Coleen Nolan suggests the hurt may stem from ego and pride. She points out that her boyfriend didn’t say “no” or “never,” but might have been thrown by the unexpected, lighthearted context. Coleen advises not to avoid the conversation. “Ask him some questions – what did he mean by ‘not yet’? Have a grown-up discussion about the future,” she writes.
She recommends telling him she won’t ask again but remains committed, putting the ball in his court. Additionally, he might have wanted to propose himself and felt his moment was ruined. Coleen urges honesty: “By dodging the question or not taking it seriously, he’s made you feel a bit insecure, as if marriage isn’t even on his agenda.”
Conclusion: Honesty Over Overthinking
Coleen concludes that addressing the issue is better than overthinking. If they love each other, they should stop guessing and be honest. The key is to communicate openly to resolve the awkwardness.
