For many brides-to-be, a common point of confusion emerges as the big day approaches: what is the correct way to wear your wedding and engagement rings together? The dilemma of which ring goes where has sparked debate, but now an industry expert has provided a definitive answer.
The Expert's Verdict on Wedding Day Jewellery
The hosts of The Unfiltered Bride podcast, Georgie and Beth, sought clarity from a guest expert. Holly Robinson, owner of Holly Robinson Jewellery in Cirencester, Gloucestershire, offered clear guidance for the wedding day itself.
"So on the day when you're getting married, put your engagement ring on your right hand," advised Holly. When questioned on what to do if the ring doesn't fit the other hand, she suggested practical solutions: "Give it to your maid of honour. If you don't trust her... give it to your mum. If you don't like her, leave it in your room."
This move allows the wedding band to be placed onto the bare left ring finger during the ceremony, adhering to tradition.
The Traditional Order and the 'Old Wives' Tale'
Holly then explained the protocol for after the vows are exchanged. The wedding ring should sit on the finger first, closest to the knuckle, with the engagement ring placed on top. She cited a longstanding superstition as the reason for this order.
"Old wives tale, your wedding ring never comes off," Holly stated. The belief suggests that the wedding band, symbolising a lifelong commitment, should remain permanently in place. Removing it is considered by some to be a bad omen, potentially symbolising infidelity or a broken vow.
Therefore, the engagement ring—which is often removed for activities like cleaning or travel—sits on the outside, protecting the sacred position of the wedding band beneath.
Public Reaction: Tradition vs. Modern Practice
Despite the expert advice, public opinion remains divided, highlighting a clash between tradition and contemporary lifestyles.
One social media user challenged the superstition, writing: "My wedding ring comes off on a daily basis for skincare, hand cream, cooking... It’s only a symbolic piece of metal and doesn’t ‘break’ my marriage, vows or commitment if it comes off."
Others sided with tradition, with one person commenting: "Never taken my wedding ring off - 30 years this year." Practicality also influenced views, as another noted: "I was told to put my engagement ring last so it's easier to get off when you're cleaning."
Some brides choose based on aesthetics. A third person explained: "My wedding ring fits perfectly around my engagement ring and thought it would look odd on its own, its stayed on top since wedding day." This highlights that personal preference and ring design ultimately play a significant role in the final decision for many couples.
